As I talk to people daily, one thing that I am learning is – the power and strength to forgive as a major concern. Forgiveness is healing to the soul and mind. Sometimes it is difficult to forgive same mistake over and over, but, for the sake of your and my sanity, it is necessary.IMG_0829IMG_0831

How is Your Job? Less or More Stressfull?

This article below will help you realize what your job stress level is. Mine is listening to people’s relationship issues:

Want a high-paying job in a low- stress environment? We reached out to Laurence Shatkin, Ph.D., a career information expert, to find out which jobs fit the bill. Shatkin compared average salaries and stress levels of the 747 occupations identified by the U.S. Department of Labor to identify jobs with that perfect combination of high pay and low stress. The stress tolerance for each job is a rating on a scale from zero to 100, where a lower rating signals less stress. It measures how frequently workers must accept criticism and deal effectively with high stress on the job. The data was gathered from the Bureau of Labor Statistics and Occupational Information Network (O*NET).

1. Dental Hygienists Stress tolerance: 71.3 Average annual salary: $70,210 What they do: Dental hygienists clean teeth, examine patients for oral diseases such as gingivitis, and provide other preventative dental care. Education requirements: An associate’s degree in dental hygiene and a license in the state they practice in

2. Engineers Stress tolerance: 69.5 Average salary annually: $92,030 What they do: Engineers use science and mathematics to come up with economical solutions to technical problems. Education requirements: Bachelor’s degree

3. Technical Writers Stress tolerance: 69.3 Average annual salary: $65,500 What they do: Technical writers produce instruction manuals and other supporting documents to communicate complex and technical information more easily. Education requirements: Bachelor’s degree

4. Urban and Regional Planners Stress tolerance: 69 Average annual salary: $65,230 What they do: Urban and regional planners develop plans and programs for the use of land. Education requirements: Bachelor’s and master’s degrees

5. Art Directors Stress tolerance: 69 Average annual salary: $80,880 What they do: Art directors are responsible for the visual style and images in magazines, newspapers, product packaging, and movie and television productions. Education requirements: Bachelor’s degree or previous work experience

6. Audiologists Stress tolerance: 67.5 Average annual salary: $69,720 What they do: Audiologists diagnose and treat a patient’s hearing and balance problems using advanced technology and procedures. Education requirements: A doctoral degree and must be licensed in practicing state.

7. Orthodontists Stress tolerance: 67 Average salary annually: $186,320 What they do: Examine, diagnose, and treat dental malocclusions and oral cavity anomalies. Design and fabricate appliances to realign teeth and jaws to produce and maintain normal function and to improve appearance. Education requirements: Bachelor’s degree, four-year dental school, and one to two years of residency training

8. Optometrists Stress tolerance: 65.5 Average annual salary: $97,820 What they do: Optometrists perform eye exams to check for vision problems and diseases. They prescribe eyeglasses or contact lenses as needed. Education requirements: Bachelor’s, four-year Doctor of Optometry program, and a state license

9. Computer and Information Systems Managers Stress tolerance: 64.3 Average annual salary: $120,950 What they do: These workers help determine the information technology goals of an organization and are responsible for implementing the appropriate computer systems to meet those goals. Education requirements: Bachelor’s degree

10. Actuaries Stress tolerance: 63.8 Average annual salary: $93,680 What they do: Actuaries analyze the financial costs of risk and uncertainty. Education requirements: Bachelor’s degree and a series of exams to become certified

11. Economists Stress tolerance: 63.3 Average annual salary: $91,860 What they do: Economists study the production and distribution of resources, goods, and services. Education requirements: Bachelor’s degree

12. Law teachers Stress tolerance: 62.8 Average annual salary: $99,950 What they do: Teach courses in law. Education requirements: Bachelor’s and law degrees

13. Astronomers Stress tolerance: 62 Average annual salary: $96,460 What they do: Observe, research, and interpret astronomical phenomena to increase basic knowledge or apply such information to practical problems. Education requirements: Bachelor’s degree, but most astronomers go on to get a master’s and Ph.D.

14. Political Scientists Stress tolerance: 60.1 Average annual salary: $102,000 What they do: Political scientists study the origin, development, and analyze the structure and operation of political systems and trends. Education requirements: Bachelor’s degree, followed by master’s or Ph.D in political science, public administration, or a related field

15. Mathematicians Stress tolerance: 57.3 Average annual salary: $101,360 What they do: Conduct research in fundamental mathematics or in application of mathematical techniques to science, management, and other fields. Solve problems in various fields using mathematical methods. Education requirements: Bachelor’s or masters degree for those who want to work in government, and a doctorate may be required to work for private companies Stress tolerance is measured by the Bureau of Labor Statistics and Occupational Information Network, with lowers score indicating less stress on the job.


Seeking Help

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There are times in life when we can figure things out. Other times, we may need

professional help. There can be a real danger to your mental health when you

wait too long or merely wish for things to disappear on their own.

Professional Marriage and Family Counselor Betty Odak, MA, LMFT, specializes

in treating Emotional Eaters/Eating Disorders, Depression, Anxiety, PTSD, Self

Esteem or Relationship Issues including those complicated by Cultural Diversity/

Ethnicity. She works with Overweight people, College Students, Blended Families,

Parents of Teens, Teenagers in the System (DCFS), Foster Children and

Foster Parents. She also has over 15 years experience working with Abused and

Neglected Children & their families.



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Poverty and Mental Health

I work mostly with people in low-income areas. Sometimes it is difficult to distinguish whether the psychosocial stressors are greater than mental issues at hand. Well, it is better to seek help while there is time and energy. I am now working with San Bernardino Medi-Cal and the challenges cannot be ignored. San Diego clients face the same dilemma but in a different way. All in all, poor or rich, we all need mental health help. I am here to help. Call me @ 909-335-9700 or 562-846-1269 or 619-800-2053.

Depression and Exercise

Researchers in Northwestern University’s Department of Neurobiology and Physiology reported that sedentary adults who got aerobic exercise four times a week improved their sleep quality from poor to good. These former couch potatoes also reported fewer depressive symptoms, more vitality, and less sleepiness in the daytime. Be sure to wrap up your workout several hours before bedtime so that you’re not too revved-up to get a good night’s sleep.

The Basics of Life

The difficulty in therapy is when a person is coming for mental issues and yet the basics of life are missing. The basics like: shelter, food, clothing, medical insurance are the necessities of life. Well, when these basics are missing, it is difficult to focus on mental issues.CreekIMG_0935

Therapy – Myths & Misconceptions

Many people who struggle with different life issues find that meeting with a therapist is helpful. Unfortunately, there are many misconceptions about who goes to therapy and what it is really like. This factsheet is dedicated to dispelling some of the common myths surrounding therapy.

 MYTH! Only crazy people see therapists.

We often imagine that only people who have experienced a lot of trauma see therapists. But this has changed, especially in the last 20 years. Today many people living “average” (or “normal”) lives see therapists because even the stress of everyday problems can become overwhelming at times. Therapists are trained to understand human feelings and behaviors and for this reason can serve as invaluable resources in treating and resolving the underlying issues that lead to people’s behaviors.

MYTH! Therapy is self-indulgent or only for “weak” people.

It is quite the opposite, actually. Beginning and sticking with therapy is a sign of courage. Therapy is hard work. In the therapeutic process, a person is likely to discover unpleasant things about the way he or she sees him or herself and his or her life, but the reward is a greater understanding of one’s life, greater clarity about what one wants in life, and less reliance on negative coping strategies.

MYTH! The past is the past, and you should be over it already.

History actively informs the present. How we make meaning of our past helps us understand how we make meaning of our present. In order for someone to improve the present, a person must make sense of his or her past in a way that helps positively shape the course of his or her future. By recognizing patterns from the past, a person can learn how to makes more positive choices, cope with adversity, and better overcome obstacles as they arise.

MYTH! Someone who does not know me cannot help me.

The fact that a therapist does not know you is exactly why a therapist can help! A trained therapist has no personal agenda, whereas a family member’s or friend’s history with you might bias their perspective and the help he or she can lend. A therapist will bring a fresh perspective to your life and challenges. Sharing your feelings and being honest with the people in your life, including yourself, is exactly what a therapist can help you do.

 MYTH! Therapy is too expensive.

Sessions with a private therapist are undoubtedly expensive. But not getting therapy is even more expensive; it robs someone of the life he or she could be leading. It is also important to note that in October 2008, The Mental Health Parity Act was signed into federal law. This means that insurance companies are required to cover mental health challenges with the same generosity as they cover physical illnesses. Additionally, for people living in New York State, health plans for employees with 51 or more employees must have unlimited coverage for “biologically-based illnesses,” including depression, bipolar and eating disorders. If a person is under 18, self-injury is also covered. Some therapists also accept payment on what is called a “sliding scale,” meaning that they will work with their client to determine a fee based on his or her income. In other words, there are several options that make therapy affordable

MYTH! Everyone will know I am seeing a Therapist, or therapy will affect my ability to get a job, apply for a loan, etc.

The law requires that therapists maintain confidentiality, meaning that they are barred from talking with anyone about what was discussed in therapy sessions. The only people who will know that a person is seeing a therapist are those people that the client tells. In fact, often people who benefit from therapy find themselves wanting to share their experience with others.

MYTH! Therapists are analyzing everything you do and say, looking for things that are“wrong.”

A therapist will pay close attention to you; observing you is part of how he or she can learn more about you and begin to help you help yourself. Therapists are not, however, hovering over you and waiting to catch you in some way. Their job is to figure out the particular ways that a person translates his or her thinking into doing. As a part of their job, they will notice the ways in which you make life difficult but they will also notice and help you notice your strengths. If you talk with a therapist who does otherwise you do not have to go back. It is important to work with a therapist with whom you feel comfortable.

PS: Source: This was forwarded to me and thought it is very meaningful and true. Will find out the source and credit the writer.